A friend once gave me a CD that she thought would be helpful. It was called “In the Meantime” and it had a slick R&B groove, with women singing, “in the meantime…..what do ya doo…….” Then, a soulful, hip woman would start out each spoken piece by saying, “In the meantime....” She gave reassurance, encouragement, inspiration, all about what to do with yourself “in the meantime”-- when you are not in a relationship. I’m not saying I did a good job of living it, but I liked the idea. I confess that just recently at dinner with 2 of my girlfriends, one of them was bemoaning the fact that she was still single. We encouraged her to go on a build a happy life for herself “in the meantime” -- which is not really bad advice. But now I see that it missed the real point.
Yesterday, I had a mini-epiphany. It happened in the bathroom while I was blow-drying my hair. (I get a fair number of epiphanies this way……when the mind is free to wander, I guess).
WHY should we ever live our lives AS IF they are incomplete – as if we are waiting, waiting, for change and just coping and dealing with in the meantime. Why waste one second of life – beautiful life – by thinking it is the next best thing to being there. What an injustice to the hour at hand.
The truth is, we are in the now whether we want to acknowledge it or not.
In the now…. I will choose to be happy.
In the now…..I will appreciate the beauty and the balance of nature.
In the now….I will love.
ditto and amen to that one. reminds of a country song entitled "don't blink".....
ReplyDeleteYou hit the nail on the head, sistah. The four most miserable words in the English language are "I'll be happy when..."
ReplyDeleteYou speak great truths, my sister. The future is an illusion we create in our minds. We dress it up in fancy clothes and accessorize it, while leaving our present moments as ragged as paupers. That cd was well-meaning, but way off. In the now --I choose to tell you I liked this post.
ReplyDeletehow eloquently you state these truths, my sister. i want to leap with joy. in this very moment. .................ps i just did but nobody saw me thank god
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